Arab sex - Always a topic man likes to think about and like to discuss.
In the Western world this changed so much over the last few years that
women are now coming into the open and discuss and even mention their
own preferences. It is not a closed topic anymore but there is an
exception. The Muslim women as seen or for that matter not seen behind
her veil is not allowed doing this.
A woman named Heba Kotb
This was until a woman with the name Heba Kotb, from Cairo Egypt started
doing just that. As a devout Muslim she used the Koran as her
inspiration to tell women and men to have more sex. In fact she is blunt
in saying "Wherever, however and whenever." Her reason being that
having sex in the same place, with the same women, the same way, same
steps is what brings the complaints and starts the arguments. That is if
you are doing it at all.
Kotb, is a certified sex therapist in Egypt. In her private sex clinic
she deals with topics nobody would have talked about earlier. The fact
that she is a woman and a Muslim makes this even more frowned upon. She
does seem to stay with married couples. The frowns also seem to be less
and the sex taboo fades when women ask her advice as host of a sex
advice show that broadcast across the Arab world. They say she does not
hold back on advice.
Questions about ejaculation, oral sex and best sexual positions are
answered in a way that brings God in as the provider for all sizes and
shapes to be compatible.
According to the Koran?
She gets away in that she is seen as a good Muslim and therefore her
advice carries the stamp of approval from the Muslim community. Allah is
central to Kotb's approach to sex. She is well educated with four
graduate degrees but her advice is supported by the holy book of her
Islamic faith, the Koran.
Foreplay, female orgasm come from her source for sexual well-being as
located in the chapter in the Koran called "The Cow." This details the
daily life of a man and woman, including their sex lives. She says the
Koran actually encourages the faithful to have sex often, mix up the
positions and please each other, while not fearing exploration. She
encourages women to explore their own bodies and believe there is too
much sexual ignorance in the Arab world. Her argument is the divorce
rate of more than 60 percent in Egypt.
Married couples should have sex all the time without excuses to keep it
interesting. Her advice is to have sex with your wife repeatedly and
frequently. The only things off limits, according to her sex advice by
the Koran, are having sex during a womans menstrual cycle and anal sex.
Everything else is acceptable. She mentions that her studies in America
did influence her way of thinking.
Summary
Though many women would still not feel comfortable discussing their sex
life with friends, maybe doing it over the radio, knowing that nobody
knows who you are does seem to be an option. In a recent article an
American pastor Ed Young had called on his Texas ministry to have sex
everyday for a week. He said it is the glue which keeps the marriage
together.